Hello, I'm A, 16 and I'm 6 weeks pregnant. I need help.By anonymous on 25/09/2008
Hello, I'm A, 16 and I'm 6 weeks pregnant. I need help. The hospital thought it was an ectopic pregnancy which means I had to tell my mum immediately as I had to go to a more advanced hospital to get checked out. It turns out it's not ectopic and I have the hardest decision on what to do. This couldn’t have happened at a worse time. I am going to court next week to face the man who raped me last year. I am terrified and my mum is determined for me to get an abortion. I know an abortion is the best thing to do as I have my life ahead of me. I'm still with my boyfriend. He works full time and he said no matter what I choose to do, he'll stand by me. But he has another child on the way, one which he doesn’t want. I don’t think he would be able to support two children. But, I don't think I can go through with an abortion. I'm so confused, and I have no idea what to do. Please help. Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…Firstly, you need to know that you are entitled to make a decision for yourself. You don’t have to do what anyone else wants because you are the one who has to live with the choice you make. No-one can force you into doing anything you don’t want to do. Secondly, it’s important that you have accurate information about all the options open to you – parenting, abortion or making an adoption plan for your baby – so that you can decide what you want. Thirdly, you need time and space to talk through not only what your head is saying about your situation but also what your heart is saying. Then you can make an informed decision based on information and an exploration of your feelings, rather than fear and panic. You can visit your nearest pregnancy centre, or ring the helpline or use Online Advisor for the information you need and the opportunity to talk it through. We’ll be thinking of you.