Four years ago, I discovered I was pregnant. It was an accident...
Four years ago, I discovered I was pregnant. It was an accident and we are still not sure how it happened because we were so careful. Having a baby wasn't an option. My boyfriend and I didn't live together. I was at uni and about to start my finals. I estimated that I was 7 weeks.
I went to the family planning clinic near my boyfriend’s house. Because I was registered with a GP in another area, they wouldn't help me. They said I had to go where I lived. I was devastated. So we checked out advice on the internet through sites like this. I found a private clinic in my boyfriend’s home town that could see me the next day. That did mean we had to pay nearly £400 but my boyfriend didn't want me to go through it alone.
The clinic was very friendly and professional. I had counselling to make sure I was ready and two days later I went back for the tablets for a medical termination. A lot of the literature says that you have vaginal pessaries that carry out this job but I had to take oral tablets. I had already had the tablet that softens the cervix and detaches the pregnancy. I took the tablets and on the way home I started feeling sick. My boyfriend pulled over and I threw up! I went back to the clinic because I was so worried that I wouldn't have digested the tablets properly and that I would have to come back and have it done again. My first exam at uni was in 2 days. The clinic staff said I would be fine, enough time had elapsed for the tablets to start working.
We got home. The cramping pains started. I had never experienced a painful period so didn't know what to expect but it sort of felt like mini contractions. This is how the uterus gets the pregnancy out. Lots of clots of blood. A very weird feeling. I took pain killers and slept. That night I just felt washed out. I was more concerned with revision!
I know I might sound cold but I know that it was the right decision for me and have never regretted it. I went to uni 2 days later for my first exam. It went well. The only thing I found weird was that because I never told anybody, nobody knew. I often wonder what my friends would think of me if they did know! The secret will stay with me and my boyfriend (who is now my husband) and I don’t feel I need to talk to anybody about it. Not everyone is the same though. I had a very supportive man with me who remains supportive and so all we need is each other for this.
I am now nearly 27 and still know that I am not ready to have a baby! If I got pregnant now though, things would be different and I would keep it. But we have changed our contraception method to make sure we are more careful!! I graduated with a 2:2. You can get through it very easily with the right support. Take care of yourself! I hope this helps.
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story. Emotionally, you seem to have coped really well with your abortion and had the support you needed. And regarding the physical aspect of a medical termination, you seem to have done better than others who have written in – it’s good to see how much the experience varies. If, at any time, you find yourself relating differently to your experience for whatever reason, we are here to help.
This story was sent in on 04/04/2007
I just read the story from the lady who experienced a painful medical abortion. Well I'm glad it wasn't just me!