My head is all over the place, it's all such a mess!

Hi, I'm 26 and I have a girl 7 and a boy 3 to my ex who left me last year after a 9-year relationship. I work just 5 hours a week and I'm on income support to top up my earnings.

I've been seeing a great guy for 6 months now and things are going great. He is 23 and has 3 kids to his ex but she doesn't allow him access - she says he was merely a sperm donor. He is at college just now and is planning on doing a full-time college course in august... problem is I'm pregnant.

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I'm approx 4 weeks, he's over the moon, I'm confused

How can we afford to have this child?

I have a 2 bed flat and he is going to be moving in this month, but we don't have room for a baby and I have no idea how on earth we will afford a baby with him at college... my head is all over the place.

I thought about abortion with my eldest and couldn't go through with it. I don't know how I'd live with myself, I feel sick even thinking about it :(, my parents are another concern - my ex and I aren't divorced yet and they had already made it clear two kids were enough and I can't see me having their support... oh it's all such a mess!

This story was sent in on 20/03/2011

Editor's comment

Your circumstances are difficult and this is making you feel pressurised and confused. Remember that circumstances change all the time so you shouldn't base your decision just on how you feel about them now. The most significant things that stand out are that despite the difficulties your partner is thrilled about having a baby with you. Added to this you have a strong sense that for you abortion would be a very difficult option to go through. If you would like some support as you go through your decision making there is help available. No one will pressurise you or judge you, and it is always your choice to do what you feel is right for you. Please follow the link to find your closest centre for unplanned pregnancy support.

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