A Problem Shared is a Problem Halved

By anonymous on 12/02/2012
About four years ago, I fell pregnant, it wasn't planned and I decided my best option was to have an abortion. I arranged the whole thing on my own and told no one what I was going through or had planned to do. For me it would have made it real that it was actually happening and I was actually going through with this.

The day came to have the abortion and it only hit me when I had the scan to ensure I was over 7 weeks, I looked briefly at the scan but didn't really take it in. I came home and I felt relief, sadness but I knew it was for the best. I think the hardest thing for me afterwards was living with what I had done, the guilt, the bitterness , the anger. I don't feel guilty anymore or angry or bitter. My only regret is that I went through it on my own. I told a close friend a few years afterwards and she was shocked I'd gone through that on my own.

If your reading this and you have a decision to make don't do it on your own. A problem shared is always a problem halved.

Editor's Comment

I think we sometimes use these defence mechanisms to cope with a crisis, and as you say not talking about it to anyone made it less real and almost as though it wasn't happening. I agree with you that it is better to talk it through with people you can trust, who will support you. I would also recommend talking to someone independent who can give you accurate information, and help you to think through the decision you are making.

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