We broke up after I had an abortion.

I'm writing this to help other people in the same position. Me and my boyfriend had been together 5 years from when we were 16 and never had problems, were perfect and hardly ever argued. In December 2011 I found I was pregnant and was so scared to tell him, but when I did he was fine. We both decided we didn't want a baby and went to the clinic to get referred. He was there for me 100% came with me and stayed with me after. Anyway the point is 3 months later we broke up, I got upset and only had him for support as I hadn't told anyone else about the abortion. I thought we was ok and went to Paris a month before we broke up and were talking about babies in the future. Abortions really do ruin relationships and it was the biggest mistake of my life. I still haven't got over what I did. I feel that my relationship broke down because of what I did. If anyone is considering it, I'm not saying don't do it because I'm not against it but make sure you speak to people first, and don't just rely on your boyfriend, tell your parents or a friend. That's the mistake I made and now I don't have him here for me either.

Editor's Comment

It was hard for you to split up after 5 years, but I think a crisis pregnancy is a big issue for any couple, and abortion is known to cause many relationships to end. In a close, loving relationship, it is hard to choose termination and still remain close. It sounds as though you feel isolated and unable to talk to anyone because no one knows about the abortion. If you would like to talk to someone, please call the national helpline 0300 4000 999 or contact a centre in your area.

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