It was either him or the baby.

By anonymous on 13/02/2013
I was 21 when I had an abortion, my ex fiancé was 23 I'd been with him for nearly four years and had previously suffered a miscarriage. He had always promised that if I was to ever get pregnant again he would stand by me whatever I wanted to do.

The night I found out I was pregnant I was over the moon, until I told him.

He sat on the bed and just stared at the tele completely ignoring what I just told him. The next few weeks and days where incredibly painful, he spent them convincing me we couldn't keep it that we where too young. Even telling his friends and getting them to do the same.
He finally got his way when **it was either him or the baby.** Something broke inside me that day, I don't think I'll ever get over it. There are days when it gets a little easier but then there's the days when I can't even bring myself to get up in the mornings.
That day ended our relationship and my world all at once. I let myself down and my unborn baby down the day I picked him. I think about it everyday and imagine what my baby would be like now nearly a year and a half on. I can only pray that one day it will get easier.

The only advice I can give is that no one no matter how much you love them is worth sacrificing your longterm happiness for, in the hope that you can work through it. No one should be pressured into an abortion.

Editor's Comment

I totally agree with your advice, and would also say that a relationship often fails when one partner wants an abortion and the other does not. It is hard to choose to end a pregnancy that was conceived in a loving committed relationship, and you abviously struggled with this. I do hope you will seek post abortion help if you still find this experience very painful. I know it takes courage but many women need help to be able to move on from a trauma like this. You can call the national helpline, log on to Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for post abortion support in your area.

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