I feel bad for considering abortion.

Hi, I'm 32 and I have three children already 13,10&22 months. My third pregnancy ended in stillbirth and we were all devastated especially my two children at the time as they were old enough to understand what went on. A year later I had another healthy baby but the pregnancy was very stressful for us all. I'm now 7 weeks pregnant after a contraception mishap, husband had a vasectomy a week ago also but doesn't get the all clear til June. I feel bad for considering abortion as I always said I wouldn't but after losing my baby daughter I don't think I can handle another pregnancy and I also don't want to put my children through all that worry.

Editor's Comment

The stillbirth must have been very distressing for you all, and going through that grief is very painful. I can understand your anxieties when you became pregnant again but happily you had a safe pregnancy and delivery.
This time the pregnancy is unplanned so your immediate reaction may have been for abortion, however you do need to think through your decision. An abortion may feel like another loss in your life and feel very negative. If you are choosing abortion mainly because of your previous loss it may make that loss feel greater still. If you would like to talk this through to be sure of your decision, please contact us. You can call the national helpline, log on to Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for unplanned pregnancy support in your area.

This story was sent in on 07/03/2013

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