We recently got married and now I have found I am pregnant.By anonymous on 27/08/2014
I have been with my husband for 16 years and we have two boys who are 8 and 12 years of age. We recently got married and have been so happy with no plans of ever having anymore children!
I have now found out I am pregnant and have gone through a wave of emotions. My husband is 100% against having this child and has told me I need to do the right thing and have a termination.
I have cried so much because yes I didn't want to have more children, but now this has happened I thought it wouldn't be such a bad thing.
Due to my husband's response I have booked an appointment to speak to the doctor about a termination as I can't bring this baby into the world knowing how my husband feels.
It's killing me inside thinking about what I am going to do, and all I keep thinking is 'maybe this is the girl that I thought one day I might have'.
I feel I've got nowhere to turn and I'm trapped in a no win situation. I don't want to ruin my relationship but I don't want to have to go through this either and I'm so scared this will ruin us either way.
Editor's CommentWhatever decision you make, you will both be affected because one thing you can't do is turn the clock back to how you were before the pregnancy. Your husband may be feeling that termination will do that for you, but in reality you will both be changed by this.
I think what you need to decide is whether you can live with a decision to end your pregnancy long term. If you are going to suffer emotionally and psychologically, that is very hard to live with for the rest of your life, and could sour your relationship.
It's really important that you talk this through together, and that your husband knows how you are feeling. It may help you both to talk with a pregnancy choices practitioner, who could help you to explore your thoughts and feelings. If you choose abortion you need to feel at peace that this is the right choice for you, and that you are not just doing it to please your husband. for unplanned pregnancy support. or call the national helpline 0300 4000 999.