I would like to write about my abortion I had 20 years ago.
I was in crisis and only had a few days to make a decision at the time. My husband decided to tell me at 12 weeks pregnant that he didn't want the baby.
I have previously written a post - however, I feel that so many vulnerable women are let down. Asking for an abortion is often a cry for help and counselling before a termination should be compulsory.
I wasn't given ANY counselling before or after the termination. Had I been given the facts and the psychological consequences then I would NOT have proceeded! I was coerced by my husband but again this was not picked up.
For me abortion is the only medical procedure that appears to go ahead without fully informed consent. I don't know if things have changed along the way over the years but I doubt it.
I feel totally let down and my life will never be the same. I long for my lost child and just wish I could have had a cooling off period or some proper support before the procedure. I hope this post will make young vulnerable women think of the alternatives before proceeding. Again all the feelings and issues may not surface for years - but believe me they will and they are devastating.
Editor's CommentIt is very sad that your life has been so damaged by this experience. Making a rushed decision, without all the information, and without support gave you no opportunity to really consider the long term effects an abortion might have on you. You have clearly suffered emotionally and psychologically.
I don't know if you have been able to get any help or support in your area, but there are trained practitioner's who can support you through a post abortion recovery programme. The memory of what happened will never go away, but the painful emotions you have experienced can be eased. If you would like to talk to someone about this type of support please follow the link. for post abortion support. or call the national helpline 0300 4000 999.