Well, I am 16 years old and I had an abortion at the age of 15.
In the end I cracked. My boyfriend didn't want it but I had to do it for him (he has huge dreams) and everyone else. It's the longest story of my life and I'm trying to shorten it but it is really hard, I apologise. Cutting to the chase, I'm not exactly the person that does things for myself. I've always been known to do things because someone else wanted me to and if I do try to make decisions for myself, I ask someone else to tell me what to do. Yes, I do believe I made the right choice for them, but not for me. Abortion is a very hard thing to deal with but if it is the right choice for you, go with your instinct. I am and always will be pro-choice; just make sure that it is your choice.
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in about your experience…It sounds as if you felt powerless to stand up for what you really wanted, given the pressures you were under from other people’s wishes. You seem sad about that. Resigned. Perhaps there is some anger underneath that comes from feeling pushed into an abortion. It sounds as if you feel distant from your parents as a result as you try to keep your sadness, anger and resentment under control.
You would benefit from talking to an advisor more deeply about what’s really going on inside you. You sound very matter-of-fact about abortion in principle, but I suspect there is a lot of pain in your heart about the decision you felt you had to make. Am I right in thinking you are in the States? If so, please call Optionline on 800-395-HELP for the support you need.