I found out I was pregnant just over 2 weeks ago. I was devastated.
I found out I was pregnant just over 2 weeks ago. I was devastated. I am only 20 and my partner is 19. I was on the pill and taking it correctly so this was clearly a freak accident how this happened. As soon as I found out, I went to the doctor’s the next morning. There was no way I could keep this baby... I can hardly afford to look after myself and I am definitely not emotionally ready to raise a child. My sister had her daughter 2 years ago and has lived with me since and I know how much hard work it was. There was no way I could do it at this point in my life.
The doctor made me an appointment at the hospital for the next week. In the days leading up to this I used this site a lot to gain more knowledge and advice about what I was to expect so I thought I would tell my story so it could maybe help others in my situation.
At my first hospital appointment all I had to do was talk to the doctor who was lovely and very helpful. Then I had blood taken and had an internal scan. I was 7 1/2 weeks gone. Less than I had first expected which was a relief. The nurses were really helpful and caring and my appointment was made for the next Monday (22nd Sept) for the first stage of the abortion. I went to the hospital first thing in the morning before work. I went alone as it was only a 10 min appointment and all I had to do was swallow a tablet. So I did. Then I was to come back on Wednesday (24th Sept) for the second and final part.
On Tuesday night I started bleeding. Wednesday morning came and my partner and I headed to the ward at 7am. Four tablets (Microgynine) were inserted into my uterus and the cramping started almost straight away. It felt like really bad period pains but once I had pain killers it changed to a dull pain which was easier to cope with. At approx 11am-12pm the amniotic sac and placenta had passed but there was no sign of the foetus. I had to have another internal scan and the nurse had to remove some clots from my uterus but there was still no sign of it, although there was no sign of it still being inside me either.
During the afternoon, I had to swallow two more tablets and the pains began to get a bit stronger again. I was given stronger pain killers. The rest of the day was basically just waiting around. I was discharged around 5pm. I have no feelings of loss although I felt a tiny bit empty. However, I think that was down to feeling constantly bloated for the past three weeks. But now I feel more relieved and back to my normal self already. I am much happier. I hope people can gain something from my story and I am pleased to be able to tell a positive one. I definitely wouldn't want to go through the experience again but I can say that it was nowhere near as bad as I had thought it would be. I was lucky enough to have a more than amazing boyfriend by my side and supportive sister there for me.
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your experience with us…As we have said many times before, women’s experiences vary hugely both emotionally and physically. It sounds as if you had very good pain relief, had good support and felt better informed about what it might be like. If at any time you find yourself in need of any support for your experience, which seems unlikely at the moment, please get in touch, won’t you? Thanks for sharing with us.
This story was sent in on 03/10/2008
I had an abortion 1 week ago, after being deceived by a man who I thought loved me.