I'm 18 and have just experienced a medical abortion yesterday,

I'm 18 and have just experienced a medical abortion yesterday, mostly because my partner didn’t want a child, and I knew I couldn’t do it alone :(. The night before, Wednesday, I read all these stories on this site, and was terrified. My friend had had one last year, and said the pain was bad, but not as bad as the nurses were making out, and not as bad as some of the stories on here, so that was reassuring. Then the day came, I went to the unit, and it was a horrible experience all round. The nurse who attended me refused to put the tablets in me (you have to have four pessaries inserted in your vagina), which made the situation a lot worse, because I was so scared that it would all go wrong. She wouldn’t do it for me, although on the Tuesday, when I had taken the tablet, they said to me that they would do it for me, yet she refused to. She handed me a glove, some lube and the four tablets and took me to the toilet. I came back crying, saying and knowing I had done it wrong, so she demanded "Take your trousers off!" really rudely. I lay on the bed and she did it for me, although she really didn’t want to and was making rude comments like "You only have one vagina!" The situation was bad enough, but she wasn’t very pleasant either. Anyway, I then came home, and that’s when the pain began. I wouldn’t recommend this type of abortion to anyone. It really is as bad as everyone says, and really is such horrific, horrible pain. At some points I honestly thought I was dying. I was sitting on the toilet being sick out of my nose and mouth (despite an anti-sickness tablet just moments before) and having diarrhoea and bleeding. It wasn’t very nice at all (understatement). The pain was so horrible, but I couldn’t keep the painkillers down to help long enough, as I was just being sick the whole time. The reason I’m sharing this is just because I really really hope that people read this so that they can definitely consider the surgical abortion, as I really wish I had now. Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing your story…It’s strange how the previous story said just the opposite to you – that the medical abortion really isn’t as bad as the stories say. It proves that every woman’s experience is her own. What’s important is that women ask questions and are informed about what may happen before they go ahead. As for your reasons for having the termination, it doesn’t sound as if an abortion was something you really wanted to do...hence the unhappy face :(. Perhaps you felt that you didn’t have a choice and went ahead with it for the sake of the relationship. It’s early days for you and you may feel relieved that it’s all over now, but other emotions may begin to surface in time. If that does happen, please feel free to get in touch with us for some support.
This story was sent in on 22/05/2009 and it's been viewed 1,461 times.

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I am 31 yrs old and my partner and I chose to have a medical termination yesterday at 8.5 wks on the NHS.


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