I'm 35 and have just found out I'm pregnant by a guy I was seeing for four months.
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…There is crisis pregnancy support available through our centres – please find one using the Find a Centre link on the Home page. Alternatively, you can ring the helpline or use Online Advisor to find the support you need.
Fathers’ responses can vary hugely, arising from many different motivations, although sadly it’s not unusual for a man to use some sort of verbal or emotional pressure to make a woman have an abortion. You do not have to do anything that any one else thinks you should do, or fall in line with their wishes in any way. It’s entirely up to you if you wish to pursue the pregnancy and support is available to help you do that if you wish. You must know your own heart and mind on the matter, so that you make the decision you can live with. In order to do that, you need time to explore your personal feelings and to be given accurate information about all your options and what support is available. Get in touch as soon as you can.