He doesn't want anything to do with the pregnancy.
By anonymous on 07/08/2011
So I'm a mother of a 4 year old, her father hasn't been in her life at all.. I have been dating and living with a guy for a year and a half so she thinks he's her dad. Well anyways, 1 month ago he ended up breaking up with me and we had to move out of our house back to my parents and I just found out I'm pregnant. He doesn't want anything to do with it telling me to have an abortion and if I don't that he'll do custody battles.. He's not really giving me any choice here and I have a scheduled abortion in 2 days :( I feel like it's the right thing to do but I don't think I could live with myself! What do I do!?!Editor's Comment
That's a very sad situation and very difficult for you coping with your relationship break up and an unplanned pregnancy. Firstly, I don't think there would be any question of your ex boyfriend getting custody. It is always awarded to the mother in a situation like this unless there were safeguarding issues. It sounds as though your ex boyfriend is trying to manipulate you into abortion by saying he will fight for custody. I can understand you feeling that abortion is the right thing, but you need to think carefully abouth how you will feel afterwards and whether you would end up living with longterm regret. In the end if you are true to yourself and your feelings it is possible to cope with difficult circumstances, rather than feeling you have betrayed your values and beliefs. If you would like to speak to an advisor please contact the national helpline 0300 4000 999