I'm 20 and recently found out I'm 9 weeks pregnant.By anonymous on 21/10/2012
I'm 20 and recently found out I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I live with my boyfriend who is still in uni and I work full time as a waitress. Neither of us has a stable financial background and my family don't live in this country.
I told my family a few days ago and my mother screamed at me about how stupid I've been (this pregnancy was not planned and a big shock).
I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and he has been the most incredibly supportive person through everything and I know will continue to be.
I'm completely stuck as to what to do... My heart tells me to keep the baby and give it the best possible life I can, but I would need the help of friends around me and some sort of financial help.
My head is telling me to have an abortion and try again when I'm older but I don't think I'd ever forgive myself if I went through with that option. I just don't know what to do and how much am I risking for all our sakes with either option.
Editor's CommentYou are facing a big decision and it must be hard when your family are not close to give you the support you need.
It would be good to think through your gains and losses with each of the options, and to work out what is really important to you.
I think we aften try to ignore what our heart is telling us but this is a very important part of you, and often reflects the values and beliefs that make you the person you are. Abortion may seem to be the best option but if it leaves you with feelings of guilt and regret, these are painful to live with longterm. If you would like to talk through your decision and get some more support please contact us.You can call the national helpline 0300 4000 999, log on to Online advisor, or follow the link to find a centre for unplanned pregnancy support in your area.