I’m 14 years of age and my boyfriend is 20...I think I'm pregnant.By anonymous on 01/08/2007
I’m 14 years of age and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together for about 4 months now and have had sex several times. We have only ever had unprotected sex once. I am a month late. On my period last time I was only on for two days. I have gained weight and can’t eat certain foods. My boobs have also become really sensitive. I have spoken to my boyfriend about it and he didn’t quite know what to say. He asked me would I keep it. I said I don't know as I feel it would end my life. All of his family and friends think that I’m 16 years old so that makes things even worse. The worst part of this is I love my partner to bits and I’m scared what will happen to him if I am pregnant. I’m scared I would lose him because of all the truth that would come out. I just need someone I don’t know to talk to - someone that might understand.
Editor’s note: Thanks for telling us about your situation. It sounds as if the first thing you need to do is find out for sure if you are pregnant. You can do that by visiting your nearest centre and asking for a pregnancy test. The good thing about going somewhere like a pregnancy centre is that there will be someone there straightaway that you can talk to about it confidentially, either on your own or with your boyfriend.
It would be very helpful for you, if your test result is positive, to talk with an advisor about the options open to you and not rush into making a decision. It’s important to understand all the options so that you can make a decision based on accurate information and not your fear or panic. The advisor would also be able to help you to think through what all this means for you and what you want to do.
If you don’t have a centre near you, phone the helpline to talk it through initially. Support is available for you as you face a possible pregnancy and some difficult decisions. We’ll be thinking of you.