My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex a few times, but this last time I thought, ‘I am pregnant’.

Hi, I’m 14 and my boyfriend is 20. My friends and family think he is 17. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex a few times, but this last time I thought, ‘I am pregnant’. My boobs are hurting, I eat a lot, I don’t want certain foods, I hurt, I don’t feel good and throw up. I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend is not ready to be a father. I’m not really ready especially as it seems my family and friends would be very disappointed in me. I don’t know what to do. Abortion or what?

Editor’s note: It’s very important that you confirm a pregnancy, so you need to have a pregnancy test done. It’s a good idea to be with someone who can support you when you do this. You can visit your nearest centre for a free pregnancy test and then someone will be at hand to talk with you about it. Go to the ‘Find a Centre’ page of this website to find your nearest centre.

When you have your result and if it is positive, you can spend time talking through all the options available to you. It is important that you have all the information about all the options – parenting, abortion and adoption - so that you can make an informed decision for yourself and fully understand what is involved in each of them. You will have the opportunity to talk through your feelings about each option as well. All this will help you make the decision about the future of your pregnancy and you can receive support on an ongoing basis.

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