I’m only 15, and pregnant, by a 20 year old my parents don’t approve of.By anonymous on 23/09/2008
I’m only 15, and pregnant, by a 20 year old my parents don’t approve of. I had to tell my dad he is 17 years old, and he thinks he’s too old for me. I can't imagine what he’ll say when he finds out he is actually 20, and not 17, let alone getting pregnant by him. My parents, mainly my dad, don't like me having boyfriends. I have no idea how I’m going to tell them that I’m pregnant. I’m so scared. I know for a fact that I’ll have a very big decision to make..., keep the baby and move out, or get rid of it and stay at home. But I don't understand, because my dad got my mum pregnant with my older sister when she was only 16, but yet they don’t like me having boyfriends. I think they’re scared I’ll do what my mum did, and I have. Now I don't know what to do.
I’m really concerned about those ultra-sound scans. The father of my baby keeps getting on my back about booking one, but I don't know how to. I’ve been looking for ages at clinics and stuff around this area; I just don't know what to do. If I find a number, I don't know what to say to them when I ring them up. I’m a shy person and not good with new people, so ringing up asking for a ultrasound scan is a bit weird for me, but I was wondering if you knew anywhere that does the scans around the Ely, Cambridgeshire area? I really need to book one within the next two days. :s please help me... x
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…you’re obviously feeling worried and scared by all of this. The first thing you need to do is have your positive pregnancy test result confirmed. You can do this by going to the Ely Pregnancy Crisis Centre at the Lighthouse Centre, Lynn Rd., Ely, CB7 4EG. Their number is 01353 662191 and they are open Tuesdays between 10 and 1.30pm, and then again at other times in the week. See their page on this website.
They will be kind and caring. Visiting the centre means you can have a free pregnancy test and talk through all your options, with or without your boyfriend, and also talk about how you feel about your situation, including how you feel about your parents. The centre will offer you support, help and accurate information. It’s more important to do this than worry about a scan right now. You need to be brave and ring the number above. If that’s difficult, you can ring the free helpline on 0300 4000 999.