I’m 21 weeks pregnant and 17 years old.
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…Your boyfriend is obviously in two minds about the pregnancy, isn’t he? A part of him really wants to make sure the child was not aborted; another part of him can’t face the losses involved in being a father. Perhaps there is just too much change for him. For you, the decision seems to be between keeping the baby or placing the baby for adoption. Both are possible with the right support. A good first place to start would be to visit your nearest centre so that someone can come alongside you and ensure that you have time and space to think through these two options thoroughly, both practically and emotionally. An advisor can help you make contact with Social Services or another agency to find out more about the adoption process. This does not commit you to anything. The advisor can also stay alongside you throughout your pregnancy in a caring role if you wish, whatever you choose.
If you haven’t done so, read through the pages about parenting and adoption on this website, including the Baby Adoption Today leaflet. You’ll see that for a woman who wants to give the best to her child but doesn’t feel able to, due to her situation in life, adoption can be a positive and responsible option. Have courage to get in touch – don’t be alone. We’ll be thinking of you.