I am 18, and I found out I was pregnant right after I missed my first period.
By anonymous on 12/01/2009I am 18, and I found out I was pregnant right after I missed my first period. I am now going on six weeks pregnant, and in a crisis, hoping to find some kind of advice out there. I had sex with an old boyfriend and thought we had something, only to discover he is a low life, making hardly any money, and not caring too much about how I am carrying his child. As for myself, I am a hairstylist/assistant and don't make that much money since this economy is only going to get worse before it gets better. I can't tell my parents, because I just have my reasons. As much as my friends are telling me to. My old boyfriend hasn't given me his half of the money, and I am having trouble just trying to come up with 300$ myself. I just don't know how to do this financially. I know I made a horrible mistake and I am definitely learning from this. Taxes are coming back soon, but not soon enough. I can't wait much longer, it devastates me. I just wish someone understood. Is there any place in South Carolina that has payment plans? Anything?
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…Since you are in the States, it might be better for you to look up www.pregnancycenters.org for any help that could be offered you there. That may not mean financial help, but they would be able to advise you about other sources of financial help, if there are any.
What comes to mind for you is that you are really primarily considering the economic reasons for not pursuing this pregnancy, and even though you are disappointed with the father, and don’t have much support, it doesn’t sound as if you have thoroughly thought through what having a termination might mean to you. Having the opportunity to explore all your feelings – panic and frustration as well as deeper, more hidden feelings – may be necessary to ensure that you come through this well.