I am 17 years old and I found out I was pregnant a few days ago.
By anonymous on 29/01/2009I am 17 years old and I found out I was pregnant a few days ago. I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we are going strong, but when I told him I was pregnant he told me he wanted me to have an abortion because he was not ready to have a child. I told my parents straight away and they said they would both support me whatever my decision was. I don’t want to be a single mum at my age but I don’t think I would be able to through with the abortion. I really think that with the support I will have I would be able to have a child, but on the other hand I don’t want to lose my boyfriend, I just don’t know what to do. I have read stories on here about people who have managed with it all but I am scared that I will be on my own. What should I do????
Editor’s note: Thanks for writing in…It’s very important that you have the opportunity to talk through your circumstances, your options – parenting, adoption and abortion – and your feelings about all the options before you make a final decision. It’s important that you talk through your emotional response to each of these options as that is what will affect you afterwards, whatever your choice. It sounds as if you are not comfortable with abortion and feel the pressure from your boyfriend to end the pregnancy. You really have to weigh up for yourself whether you will both be able to maintain your relationship if you choose to do something you are not comfortable with and possibly blame him for it. Anger, guilt and grief can be strong emotional responses after abortion. It sounds as if it would help you to visit your nearest centre and find some support through this. If there is no centre near you, contact the helpline or Online Advisor. We’ll be thinking of you.