I'm 21 years old and nearing the end of my first year at university...
Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing with us…It seems like you have assessed the difficulties quite well and know that practically you can still carry on as before with your degree. Hard work, but you can do it, especially with the support of family.
The real issue for you is whether you will go along with a decision that your boyfriend says will ‘ruin’ his life and risk him leaving you, or whether you will ‘take the life’ of your unborn baby and do something you already feel you don't have the right to do. It's sad that fathers divide the loyalties of mothers in this way and create the kind of pressure that means she has to make a sacrifice of either her pregnancy or her relationship - or more usually, both.
There is really no pain-free way forward, as there are gains and losses with each option, but forward is the only direction you can go in. Remember that abortion cannot make the clock turn back and take you to where you were before. It brings as many challenges as having the baby, just different ones, usually deeper emotional ones. What would bring you peace in your heart? Let peace tell you what direction to go in. It’s really important that you talk to someone about your situation – ring the helpline or visit your nearest centre – so that you can make the decision you can live with, one you’ll be at peace with deep down. We’ll be thinking of you.