I have been with my partner for 5 years and we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter.
By anonymous on 08/01/2010I have been with my partner for 5 years and we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. We have had a rocky relationship, fighting all the time, and finally came to a decision to split up, only to find out that I am 7 weeks pregnant. He was anti abortion when we met, and now he talks as if that is what he wants. My head is all over the place and I do not know what to do. I can't imagine sitting in hospital just taking a pill and killing my baby, and then going back to a normal life. I know I will hate my partner because really all I wanted him to do was tell me everything would be ok and we would cope. All he keeps saying is negative things and talking as if there is not another child involved. He is thinking about our 3 year old daughter which I totally understand, but I have a child growing inside me and I do not know what to do. Please give me advice.
This has come at a difficult time for you when your relationship is not very stable. The option of abortion seems to be difficult for you, and you sound unhappy about the thought of going through this. You mentioned that your partner was anti abortion and I wonder if you felt the same way before this happened. It is really important that you make a decision that you feel comfortable with, and don't regret in the future. Although abortion sometimes appears to be the easier solution it is a difficult experience to go through for some women. You may feel that you are doing the best for your little girl, but she would also benefit from having a brother or sister to grow up with. It may help you and your partner to talk this through with someone objective, and you could look on the web site and see if there is a local centre you could access.You could also ring the national helpline and talk to a trained advisor 0300 4000 999.