We have decided to keep the baby.
I just moved to another province to live with my boyfriend that I had met here, less than a year before my decision to move (also, I don't have any friends here other than my co workers, so I often feel alone).
We never really knew much about each other. Our first encounter was meeting at a bar and having a one night stand.
I left my job and all my family and friends behind to try something new. I would say we have been a couple for roughly 4 months. I have been living with him for less than three months and we have decided to keep the baby (after my first call to an abortion clinic left me frozen and I could not find it in me to call them back). Well, I decided. He was behind me with what ever decision I made.
Anyway, I'm rambling and although this is one of my most satisfying relationships with someone, in the sense that we get along very well and have a lot of fun together. We have had some rough patches already but I think it's because we are both emotional, passionate and sometimes very sensitive.
I cannot see myself being happy living here long term. I miss my family and friends back home. And often feel quite torn about my hasty decision to move here and my decision to keep this child. I know we are more than capable of taking good care of a baby with lots of family support (although, only my sister, 2 of my closest friends and his grandfather know) we just know everyone else would be happy to hear our news and be as helpful as they can.
I feel our relationship is much too new and I'm very unsure of how it's going to turn out when there is already a baby on the way. I sure did complicate my life very quickly when I decided to move here, out of sheer boredom and feeling in love.
By the way, we weren't using birth control of any kind. We got ourselves into this and we will deal with it as we must. It's just very difficult to grasp some days and I hope I'm not the only one with such back and forth feelings on keeping baby and that's ultimately what I want to do. Any kind words are welcome.
Editor's CommentI think going down the abortion route initially helped you to be clear that this was not the option you wanted to follow. You are clearly nervous about whether your relationship will survive this, and no one can predict, but there again there are no guarantees in any relationship, and sometimes the strongest ones come unstuck. So I think you should go for it and give it your best shot, but don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. for unplanned pregnancy support.
This story was sent in on 04/11/2014