They gave me a scan and sadly they couldn't find a heart beat.

I'm 21 years old and found out that I was 4 weeks pregnant it wasn't planned, I wasn't actually in a relationship with the baby's father.
I went for a scan to confirm how far along I was and I saw the baby on the screen. At this point it just looked like a blob but instantly I knew I was going to keep it, I felt the connection and love straight away.
So as time progressed I got that little bit more excited each week as I knew I was a week further and was so looking forward to my 12 week scan. I got to 9 weeks and 3 days and woke up and noticed I had some blood on my pyjamas. Straight away I panicked even though it was only very light bleeding.
I got referred to the early pregnancy unit where they gave me a scan and sadly they couldn't find a heart beat and told me my baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and 4 days. I was absolutely devastated the feeling was awful. I'd become so attached already and it broke my heart to know my baby had died. I just feel numb and lost at the minute there's nothing anyone can say or do to make me feel better.
It's the worst experience for a woman to go through and I feel for anyone going through the same pain. I've had amazing support from my family and the baby's dad, but nothing can heal this except time and even then I'll always have the love, and feel the sadness at the loss of this baby.

Editor's Comment

It is very sad to find out you have lost your baby, even in the early stages of pregnancy there is a strong feeling of love towards the developing baby. You will have to give yourself time and space to grieve for your loss. If you need some support please call the helpline 0300 4000 999 or log onto Online advisor. for miscarriage support.

This story was sent in on 18/02/2015

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