I always said I will never have another abortion
By anonymous on 25/05/2010I am 19 years old and I had an abortion when I was 17, after an unprotected mistake.
I always said that I will never have another abortion if I get myself in this position at the wrong time because I want to take responsibility for my actions.
I have had a boyfriend for nearly 2 years now, had unprotected sex and I have not come on my period, ( I'm only a day late but it's scary!) and I'm getting the symptoms i.e sore nipples, tired, peeing a lot.
I have never really discussed kids with him because he already has a child from a one night stand and he didn't stick by her. So I am scared what he'll do. It's also because of his religious beliefs it makes it more complicated.
If I am pregnant I am not going to get rid of it but I am scared of what everyone will think and say especially our parents. Please could you advise me! x
Editor's CommentThe first thing you need to do is be brave and take a pregnancy test. It's very easy to get worked up about an unplanned pregnancy before you know for certain that you are pregnant. You can get a free pregnancy test at a pregnancy support centre. Look on the website to see if there is a centre in your area. They will also be able to give you information about your options and help you to think through your decision. You can also ring the national helpline 0300 4000 999 to talk to one of the trained advisors.
Your anxieties seem to be coming from other people's reactions and response to you rather than how you feel about the decision. It's important that you don't allow yourself to be pressurised by anyone else into a decision you are not comfortable with. You will have to live with it for the rest of your life. Hopefully your boyfriend will support your decision, but if he doesn't then maybe he's not the right one for you!