I want the baby but my boyfriend wants me to get an abortion

Hi I'm 14 and I'm four months pregnant. I had so much ahead of me and I had goals for myself. I didn't know what to do. I'm scared I can't make it in life with a baby. I haven't told my parents but I know they will support me. I never want to have an abortion. I already feel the baby kicking little.

My boyfriend loves me and he knows I want to keep it but he wants me to get an abortion because his mom will disown him if she finds out. I'm scared. I told him I got an abortion but I keep getting bigger and no one knows I'm pregnant, but they all ask me and it’s getting on my nerves.

I can't have a baby but don't want to get rid of it. I need help to decide if I really want it but I don't want my boyfriend to leave. I don't think he will but I think about it at night.

Editor's comment

Thanks for writing in… If you are in the States, please contact Optionline on 800-395-help and talk to someone about your situation. It’s important for you that you find out about all the options available to you – having the baby, adoption and abortion – and have time to explore all your feelings, so that you can make an informed decision for yourself about what to do without fear, panic or pressure from anyone. It sounds as if an abortion is not what you want, but you’re anxious about having the baby too. Contact the helpline as soon as you can so that you are not alone.

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