I'm just 15, my boyfriend is 16, we both want the baby but both have doubts
By anonymous on 13/04/2009
Hi, I turned 15 yesterday… and I’m a month and nearly two weeks gone. My boyfriend and I have been together well over a year now… he is great with kids because his brother has two little beautiful girls, and he is great with them.
I don't know whether to keep this baby though. My boyfriend is 16 and has admitted that we might not be ready yet. We both want it, but we both have doubts.
Should I tell my mom? And should I keep it? x.
Thanks for writing in…
First of all, you need to have a pregnancy test done if you haven’t already. You can do this by buying one, or visiting a pregnancy support centre near you.
Secondly, it would be a good idea to tell a trusted adult about your situation – this could be your parents, a teacher or an advisor at a pregnancy centre - so that you can be supported.
If the pregnancy is confirmed, then you need to be given the opportunity to assess all the options for yourself – parenting, adoption and abortion – so that you can make up your own mind about what to do, free from panic, fear and pressure from others.
You also need time and space to assess all your feelings about the options - in other words, your heart response to each option, not just a logical ‘head’ response. A decision like this is not only about circumstances – your education, money and housing, for example - but also about your instinct, your conscience, and your beliefs as well.
None of the options will take you back to where you were before – there is only forwards now, not backwards, so be brave. If your pregnancy is confirmed, insist on having proper advice and counselling (independent of an abortion provider) so that the decision you make is yours.
We’ll be thinking of you.