The gynaecologist suggested abortion but I have this guilt inside me

By anonymous on 10/05/2009

Hi. Well, from my addressing you, you might have already guessed that I am a guy. I have a girlfriend. She is two months pregnant. When did we come to know about it? This afternoon when we performed the home-based urine test...

Now the problem is, I am more deeply in love with her... it was a mistake for us that we had unprotected sex... but she most probably hates me now... I am 20 years old and she is 29, but I am ready to take the child...

Again, we are foreigners from two different nations... so what can I do?

We met with a gynaecologist. She suggested cleaning it up... but I have this guilt inside me... I will do anything. I am bloody ready to fight the world and also to get married if she agrees, so can you help me?...

This thing is tearing me apart... I still have a long time ahead of me and I want to grow old with this lady... I don’t care that she is older.

All I care is if she loves me and have the baby... yeah, family and friends would be a problem but they would be temporary, you know... so why are we so afraid of the damn world who does not care how we live or survive?

They just criticise. I am talking about the damn people around us...

I hope you people who are reading this crap understand what I mean??? Trust me even I have no idea what I just wrote... my head is not working... I am tired crying...

Editor's comment

Thanks for telling us about your situation… It sounds as if your father heart has responded deeply to the news of this pregnancy. Guilt can be a healthy emotion telling you that you are about to do something that you are not comfortable with. It’s quite evident that the possibility of abortion is very distressing for you. I don’t know if you are still seeing your girlfriend, but it would help you both to visit your nearest pregnancy centre to talk with an advisor about your situation. Your girlfriend needs to be able to make an informed decision about the options open to her, and explore all her emotions about them as well. You would have the opportunity to talk about your relationship and what meaning that has for both of you. If your girlfriend is not willing to go with you, go to your nearest centre alone so that you can be supported.

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