I have had 3 medical abortions and each one has been different.

I have had 3 medical abortions and each one has been different. The first was done in an NHS hospital where the initial consultant was rude and unsympathetic to the point where I got very angry and told him I was going to a private clinic if his attitude did not change. I was one day from 9 weeks gestation. I was given the first tablet in the ward 3 days later and bleeding (like a light period) began 24 hours later but hardly any pain at all, if anything. In fact, I felt much better. I was then admitted to the ward 48 hours after the oral tablet where I was asked to insert 4 pessaries. I had to stay in a bed for quite some time until the nurses told me to start walking around. I waited and waited for almost 4 hours before I had a mild twinge in my lower abdomen, went to the loo on the commode and there it was staring back at me in the bowl! The nurses came, checked it and I went home. Bleeding that was very very heavy but not clotty. It lasted for about 5 hours and then I lost what appeared to be a placenta. Bleeding then slowed over a 4 week period. The second termination was done at a BPAS clinic at 6 weeks gestation where the care was far better. I was given a tablet on Tuesday, went home and 12 hours later began to pass large clots about the size of small plums with moderate to heavy bleeding which during the night soaked me and my bed. By the Thursday, the bleeding was hardly anything and, after the pessaries, I had mild dull aches for about 3 hours. The bleeding lasted on and off for almost 2 months and a scan revealed no retained tissue. I am now 2 weeks post 3rd medical abortion (7.5 weeks) and this time also at BPAS. I did not bleed until 36 hours after the oral tablet but had some very painful cramps which needed painkillers and huge clots about the size of an orange but this only lasted for about 2 hours and then the bleeding stemmed to a light period/spotting within 3 days of the pessaries (after which I had no pain worth mentioning. For one week I had only a yellowish discharge with the occasional brown spotting until 14 days (yesterday) when the bleeding began again with small clots. Every experience for me has been different and with these 3 medical abortions. I had 2 STOP's (surgical terminations of pregnancy) 10 years ago but that's another story. Don't let other's experiences put you off as, for you, it could be totally different. Editor’s note: Thanks for sharing about your abortion experiences…it’s true to say that every experience of abortion can differ from a previous abortion or someone else’s. I’m sure that many women will be interested to read the varied experiences you’ve had as just one woman. It’s helpful for anyone considering abortion to discover the facts and look at it, not only from a physical perspective, but also an emotional one. For many women, it is a logical choice, given the circumstances, and many enter into it without giving enough thought to other available options, what happens in an abortion or how they might feel afterwards. The heart feelings that stem from our conscience, beliefs and instinct can surface afterwards and cause much pain, such as guilt and grief. You don’t say why you decided to have your abortions. It can be one or more of many problematic things – failed contraception, difficult circumstances, broken relationships, lack of finance or accommodation, for example. The pressures can be so crushing, can’t they? Some of us, understandably, become very good at wrapping up our hearts to protect ourselves from the reality of what has happened, and I wonder how much of that you have had to do. None of us like to experience pain, and it’s only with love and care that we can allow ourselves to go there. Whatever the circumstances or experiences, the feelings or the logic, healing is always available for those that feel they would like some. Maybe that’s not you, because you feel fine about it, but you’d be welcome, should you ever feel differently. Thank you for sharing with us.
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